Source: Vanguard
On the scale of 'ill treatment and disrespect shown to women's rape, may well weigh the heaviest, given its gruesome nature and violation of a woman's honour. There are many other acts of physical, verbal and psychological abuse, mostly domestic perpetrated against women even in the most civilised countries and societies that are symptomatic of a serious underlying psychological problem in the manner and way women are treated.

In Nigeria, the trend is alarming. Although there is no accurate data of the number of victims per year in the recent time but suffice to say that about 50% of rape cases were not reported. More women are injured due to domestic violence than those injured in car accidents and muggings combined. According to UN Study on the Status of Women, one woman is beaten by her husband or partner every 15 seconds.

If such is the incidence of physical abuse, one can well imagine the level of verbal and psychological abuse and general disrespect that women face. The manifestation of abuse is nothing other than a reflection of the psyche of society moulded, shaped and churned out by the mass media machinery where women are used to sell anything from a tooth pick to a truck tyre! Hence women are seen as nothing other than commodities and sex objects whose only function is to serve the visual and physical gratification of men. A woman is judged more on her physical appearance than her mental and intellectual capacity.

The current situation that women the world over find themselves in, although camouflaged by all the glitz and glamour, is not very different to the situation that women found themselves in during the period of Jaahiliya (Ignorance) of pre-Islamic Arabia. Arabia was a male-dominated society. Women had no status or right of any kind other than as sex objects and commodities that could be bought, sold and even disposed of. The number of women a man could marry was not fixed. When a man died, his son 'inherited' all his wives except his own mother. A savage custom of the society was to bury their female infants alive.

Modern day abortion being no different other than being more sophisticated. Even if a man did not wish to bury his daughter alive, he still had to uphold this 'honourable' tradition, being unable to resist social pressures. Drunkenness and gambling were common vices. It was during such times that women were sold off in lieu of debts or offered as guarantees. One point worthy of mention is that in spite of women being treated in the manner mentioned above it was still considered an act of cowardice for a man to violently attack or show aggression to a woman.

It was at this time and to such a community of drunken, male dominated and war mongering people that Allah Ta'ala chose to send His Final Prophet (May Peace be upon him) with the final revelation - Al Quran. In a period of 23 years the Noble Messenger of Allah made such an effort and prepared these 'backward' desert dwellers to become the beacons of light that would radiate out of the sand dunes of the deserts of Arabia to illuminate the minds, hearts and souls of humanity who were then grovelling in the oceans of darkness.

Together with removing idol worship, forging human brotherhood between the black and the white, the slave and the master, uplifting the oppressed and downtrodden, giving hope to the weak, inculcating sober habits and perfecting good character, he also redefined the position of women in society and restored to them their equality, honour, dignity, humanity and position.

No more was a woman a mere commodity with no rights but rather she was recognised as an individual with full rights to ownership, education, inheritance, respect, honour and marriage. Perhaps the highest accolade given to a woman was that Islam recognised her sacrifice during child bearing and birth (Qur'an-Surah 46, Verse 15) and therefore made her deserving of most respect from her children even above the father (Hadith-Bukhari & Muslim) and also categorically stating that 'Your Heaven lies under the feet of your mother' (Hadith-Ahmad, Nasai)

This venerated position of women was imprinted on the psyche of every male of the society. This was achieved through equating the service and happiness of parents to great and meritorious acts like striving in the path of Allah and Hijrah (migration) for the sake of Allah. Such was the zeal with which the once male dominated society treated and served their women that a companion once carried his mother on his back to allow for her to fulfil the rights of the Hajj (Pilgrimage) and yet thereafter acknowledging that he had not fulfilled the right of her one 'turning' towards him as an infant out of concern for his well being.

The Noble Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) also said, 'Among the Muslims the most perfect, as regards his faith, is the one whose character is excellent, and the best among you are those who treat their women well' (Hadith-Tirmidhi). In another narration it is mentioned 'I command you to take good care of the women' (Hadith-Bukhari) and also, 'Do not beat Allah's female servants (i.e women)' (Hadith-Abu Da'ud, Ibn Majah). The Noble Messenger of Allah(peace be upon him) also said 'How does anyone of you beat his wife as he beats his camel and then embraces her?' (Hadith-Al-Bukhari)

Based on the above some scholars like Ata bin Rabah (May Allah's mercy be with him) stated, the fact that the Noble Messenger of Allah(pbuh) never resorted to the permission of beating and said, 'He who beats his wife is not a good person' (Hazimi, al-Itibar)

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